Dear Queenie,
A friend of mine from when we were in school together has gotten some ideas that I just can’t agree with. I don’t want to argue with him about any of it and we have always been such good friends that I don’t want to just stop having anything to do with him, but if I just keep quiet when he gets on about these things he’ll think I agree with him.
Queenie, is there any chance I could get him to change his mind about any of this or should I just give up on being friends with him?—Fed-up friend
Dear Friend,
When he says something that bothers you, just tell him you do not agree with him and do not want to talk about it, and change the subject of the conversation. Either he will accept the fact that you do not agree with him and talk about something else, or you will find yourself spending a lot less time with him.
