Dear Queenie,
My grown-up daughter still lives with us and I would like her to move out because I am tired of picking up after her, but my husband, her father, won’t hear of it.
Queenie, how can I get her to pick up after herself and persuade him that it is time for her to move out?—Fed-up mother
Dear Mother,
If your daughter has a job, she should be paying you something for rent and should be helping out around the house, or at least picking up after herself.
Assign her certain chores to do around the house, and if she does not do them tell your husband to do them for her or give you money to hire someone to help with the housekeeping, but do not do your daughter’s chores yourself.
I am willing to bet that if your husband has to pitch in or pay for the work, he will be less willing to pamper his daughter.
