Dear Queenie,
There are some members of my family who never can remember everyone’s birthday or other special occasions.
Queenie, how can I get them to remember such things without having to nag them about it?—Fed-up relative
Dear Fed-up relative,
Whenever you have occasion to give these people a gift, include a calendar on which you have marked all the special occasions you want them to remember, with the name(s) of the person(s) involved. Then they will probably remember, and if they do not they will have no excuse for forgetting.