Dear Queenie,
When I found out I might have cancer all my husband could think about was if our insurance would cover the cost. When I told him how scared I am he said he is scared too, but he didn’t try to comfort me in any way.
Queenie, I am still scared and hurting from his reaction.—Frightened wife
Dear Wife,
You have every reason to feel frightened by the possibilities of your condition – and so does your husband, because for him that includes the possibility of losing you. Apparently he is short on empathy – the ability to understand and possibly to share someone else’s feelings.
Try to forgive him for this shortcoming, and explain to him just what you want and need from him in this difficult time.
