Dear Queenie,
My son died in a traffic accident and in just a couple of months my daughter-in-law started seeing a new man. Then she got pregnant by him and she and her 2 very young children moved in with him. She even lets them call him “Daddy”.
What bothers most me about all this is that the man she is living with is still married and has children of his own. He could be the right man for her and is just going through a difficult divorce, but I don’t know anything about all that.
Queenie, what can I say to her, or should I just not say anything?—Grandmother in mourning
Dear Grandmother,
Although your daughter-in-law seems to be disrespecting your son’s/her husband’s memory, it could be that she is just afraid of living and raising two young children alone.
Do not say anything to her that might lead to an estrangement. Your grandchildren are going to need you to be there for them and to help them remember their father/your son.
