Dear Queenie,
My husband and I were married for many years. He was loving, protective, generous and faithful, but all my family saw about him was his temper.
When he died I notified both families, but none of them sent me any condolences. My family claim to care about me, but all they remember about him is bad things.
Queenie, why won’t they let him rest in peace?—Grieving widow
Dear Grieving widow,
When anyone bad-mouths your late husband ask them – politely! – to stop because it makes your grieving more difficult. If they do not stop, get up and leave so you do not have to listen to what they are saying. Hopefully, eventually they will stop, but at least you will not have to listen to them meanwhile.
