Dear Queenie,
My wife and I moved to the island when I got a good job here. Every year when the time for our grandchildren’s birthdays comes around she gets homesick for where we used to live and starts talking about moving back there. She says I could get a good job back there.
I like it here much better than where we used to live and I like my job here too and I don’t want to go back there except maybe to visit for a few days.
Queenie, how can we work this out?—Harassed husband
Dear Husband,
If you can afford it, perhaps your wife could go “back there” frequently to visit or even to live for part of the year near your grandchildren.
As usual, I recommend professional counselling for the two of you together if you need more help than I can give you to work things out.
