Dear Queenie,
I have feelings for my friend’s girl that he is checking but not dealing and I don’t know how to act around them. He is my best friend.
Queenie, what do I do?—Confused friend
Dear Friend,
I suggest you do nothing for the time being, until you know for certain what your best friend’s intentions are regarding this girl. Eventually he will decide what he wants to do – or not do – about her.
If he decides she is not for him, you will have a clear field to go ahead with her – if you still have feelings for her. If you do not, there will be no problem.
On the other hand, if eventually he decides to go after her and you still have feelings for her, you will have to decide whether to become his rival for her affection or to give up any idea of going after her yourself.
In the meantime, you will have the chance to think carefully about what you want to do in either eventuality.
Let me add a further complication to this situation: Could it be that your best friend is aware of your feelings for this girl and feels the same way about you and her that you feel about him and her?
