Dear Queenie,
My husband and I both work, but we have our own accounts and he pays all the household bills except for groceries and won’t let me know about any of that. But he scolds me when I spend money from my own account on things for myself.
Queenie, is this fair?—Independent wife
Dear Wife,
Your husband’s controlling behaviour is a form of abuse and you should not put up with it. How he spends his own money on himself is his business, but you are entitled to know about household expenses, which are mutual, and how he handles them – just as he is entitled to know how much you spend on groceries, which are also a mutual matter (if he is interested enough to ask), but not what you spend on things for yourself.
