Dear Queenie,
I have a son with my ex-boyfriend, but we split up and I got in with my present boyfriend just after I got pregnant. Everyone thinks my present boyfriend is the boy’s father, including my present boyfriend and my son.
Now my ex wants to tell our son that he is his real father.
Queenie, should I tell them the truth?—Undecided mother
Dear Mother,
If your son ever has a DNA test the truth will come out, which could be a shock to him, and to your present boyfriend. Better it come from you before that happens.
If your present boyfriend and your son have a good relationship it should not be affected – he will just become the boy’s stepfather instead of his “real” father.
And your ex should remember that a DNA test will prove that he is responsible for child support.
