Invitation Etty Ket

Dear Queenie,

  My little daughter’s birthday is coming up and I am sending out birthday party invitations. She already has more toys than she ever plays with.

  Queenie, I know you always say not to put a request for anything on an invitation, but is it okay to say what you don’t want, like “no toys, please”?—Invitation Etty Ket


Dear Etty Ket,

  You should never mention gifts on an invitation (except to say, “No, gifts, please” or to specify a donation to charity). Just plan to return or exchange any unwanted gifts, or to donate them to charity.