Worried girlfriend

Dear Queenie,

  My boyfriend has a grown-up daughter that he only hears from when she has a problem and calls him for help. He always tries to help her, but this always upsets him and I hate to see him feeling like that.

  Queenie, how can I help him deal with his daughter?—Worried girlfriend


Dear Girlfriend,

  Your boyfriend’s daughter needs to grow up and learn to deal with her problems, but that takes a loooong time for some people, and there are some who never learn. There is also the possibility that she resents his relationship with you and this is her way of getting his attention.

  Allow your boyfriend to vent his feelings by talking to you about them, or better yet, to a professional counsellor. Professional counselling might also help your boyfriend’s daughter, and he might want to suggest she get it.