Dear Queenie,
My divorced daughter and her children live with me so that I can take care of the children while she is at work.
Her new boyfriend visits us a lot and eats a lot of meals with us. He even takes home some of the leftovers. He has a low-paying job and says he has trouble paying his bills, but he always seems to have money to go out drinking and to the movies and sports games.
Queenie, do you think this is right?—Not rich grandmother
Dear Grandmother,
If you cannot afford to feed this boyfriend so often, ask your daughter to stop inviting him to eat with you so often.
I am assuming she invites him and he does not just drop in and expect to be fed – if it is the latter, do not invite him to eat with you, but excuse yourselves when it is time to eat and ask him to come back later. Or, ask your daughter to give you money to pay for the food her boyfriend eats.
