Dear Queenie,
My husband used to abuse me, but when I left him and got a divorce my father threw me out of his house without letting me explain and the rest of the family just stood there and didn’t say anything.
Now my mother is going to die of cancer.
Queenie, should I forgive her and my father even though I don’t think they deserve it? That feels like admitting that they were right in taking my ex-husband’s side.—Rejected daughter
Dear Daughter,
If your mother and/or your father have asked for forgiveness, that is like admitting they were wrong and you should at least try to forgive them. However, if they did not, having anything to do with them is just risking more rejection.
I suggest you stay away from them unless they make the first move toward reconciliation.
