Dear Queenie,
A relative of my wife’s got married in a small civil ceremony a couple of years ago. We were there and gave them a card and a check.
Now they want to have a church ceremony and a big reception.
Queenie, We don’t want to be rude. If we go, do we have to give them another check?—Second wedding Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
You have already given this couple a wedding gift, so you are not obligated to give another. However, if you want to, you can give them a card and a small gift of some sort.
