Dear Queenie,
I’m in the process of getting divorced and we’re trying to keep it as peaceful and friendly as possible for the children’s sake. Meanwhile, I have met a wonderful man who has asked me to marry him as soon as the divorce is final.
I don’t want my almost-ex-husband or my children to think he didn’t mean anything to me and I don’t want to seem to be trading in one man for the next, and especially I don’t want my children to be upset by my getting married again.
Queenie, how do I make them understand my feelings?—Soon-to-be-ex-wife
Dear Soon-to-be-ex,
Do not rush things. Let your children have time to settle down after the divorce and to get acquainted with the new man in your life. And give yourself time to get accustomed to your new circumstances.
If your new husband-to-be (I hope) is as wonderful as you think he is, he will understand and be patient – and if not, maybe he is not quite as wonderful as you think.
