Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend wants me to move in with him, but his wife died years ago and he still has all her clothes and other personal belongings all around the house, which bothers me.
Queenie, can I ask him to get rid of all that stuff before I move in?—The new woman in his life
Dear New woman,
Treat this issue with respect. Your boyfriend may not be able to part with his late wife’s things, or it may just be too much of a job for him. Ask him whether he would like some help in packing up her things (not getting rid of them). Also, if he has children perhaps they might like to have some of their mother’s things.
Do not press the matter. If he is not willing to discuss it, wait a while before bringing it up again.
