Dear Queenie,
I got divorced a long time ago when my son was in his teens and my ex-husband and I have both remarried since then, but our son doesn’t have much to do with either of us. He is grown up and married now and has a child of his own, but he won’t let us have anything to do with our grandchild. He says he doesn’t trust us because we make bad decisions.
Queenie, how can I get him to let me see my grandchild?—Unhappy grandmother
Dear Grandmother,
Sometimes people do not realise how hard their divorce can be on their children. Professional counselling might have helped your son at the time, and still could, if there is any way you can persuade him to go.
Try not to provoke your son, apologise to him for the unhappiness your divorce has caused him, and ask him if there is anything you can do to improve your relationship with him.
If you have any contact with his wife, perhaps she could help you in all this.
