Dear Queenie,
I got divorced many years ago and about 10 years later I got married to someone else. I have never had any contact with my ex except for important occasions involving our children, like a wedding. However, my sisters and brothers have started inviting my ex and her new husband to family affairs, like holiday celebrations and my ex invites them to her family affairs.
My wife and I do not attend anything when my ex and her husband will be there and we do not understand why my family invites them.
Queenie, why do they do this? And are we wrong to not go?—Offended brother
Dear Brother,
Your sisters and brothers may be doing this to please your children – after all, your ex is still their mother. You should let them know how you feel about this. Perhaps they can make other arrangements so that you do not have to feel so offended.
